Woman Pressures Husband for Surgery to Avoid Having More Kids, Only to Divorce a Year Later and Find Out It’s Irreversible

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    • r/AITAH 18 hr. ago ComplaintNod My wife divorced me 5 years after making me get a vasectomy. AITAH for not being on speaking terms with her anymore?
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    My ex wife (32F) and I (32M) finalized our divorce proceedings last year. We had a kid when we were 21, we got married at 25, and at 26, my wife made me get a vasectomy because she did not want any more kids. I was hesitant because I always wanted more kids, but for the sake of our marriage, I decided to get a
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    vasectomy, and my wife was very happy about it.
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    However, our marriage went through its ups and downs, and we both amicably decided on a divorce because we weren't compatible. Even after the divorce, we were on good speaking terms and we were good friends. However, a month after finalizing our divorce proceedings, I went to the doctor to check if my vasectomy could
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    be reversed, and after evaluating everything, the doctor told me it couldn't be reversed. I was devastated, and really regretted. listening to my wife many years ago who made me get this vasectomy, and who also then divorced me later.
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    I took a week off work because I was really struggling with this news, and I built up a lot of resentment towards my ex wife, but for the sake of our son, I acted like everything was normal. However, I decided a week later after speaking to my sister that I needed a clean break from my ex wife and to cut off all communication with her even
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    though she was my son's mother. My sister let my ex wife know. The co parenting arrangements would still be the same and I would drop and pick up my son, but if my ex wife attempted to even say anything or speak to me, I would go to the courts and the co parenting arrangement could then become extremely
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    complicated. Any further communication with me would be via my sister.
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    It's been almost a year since this arrangement, and my son asks me occasionally why I don't speak to his mom anymore. He told me he's seen his mom crying many times especially after I drop him off, and when he asks her about it, she says nothing. My sister tells me my ex wife is very remorseful about it, and if she could take it back, she would, and she's asked
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    multiple times if we could at-least communicate normally because she misses talking to me. But I will never go back on it, especially as I've now been dating my current girlfriend for a few months and we're becoming serious. AITAH?
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    Luna-Explorer-420 ⚫3h ago Wich one is it? "You both amicably divorced" Or "She divorced me" Seems like you dont really know for yourself. Anyway YTA For doing this to your child.
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    Necessary-Tackl... • 50m ago You are the . It's understandable that you're upset and that you need. space from your ex. But it's immature to go no contact with the other parent of your child, and you're putting your sister and your kid in the middle. You don't
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    have to be friends, but you ought to be civil. You owe it to your kid to model healthy breakups as well as healthy relationships. And you owe it to him to be continue co- parenting him as best as you can.
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    Creepy-Debate2366 • 2h ago YTA. It's not about you, it's about your son. The person you're harming with this immature behavior is him. Get a grip and show him what forgiveness looks like. Y'all made a decision together while you were married and regrettably the
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    marriage didn't work out, but it's not like she gave you a vasectomy without your knowledge. Your son doesn't deserve to be in this situation.
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    Sparrowsabre7 • 2h ago YTA if you didn't want the vasectomy you shouldn't have done it. No one held a gun to your head. No one forced you to. you, albeit begrudgingly, chose to do it. To be this callous to your son's mother now, someone you allegedly amicably
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    divorced from, seems churlish and is only hurting your son.
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    Steel-Dagger 3h ago As a microsurgeon my self I would ask another opinion. Normally it's around 80% chance to do full reversal.
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    SoroWake 4h ago Info: you are still able to have children of your own. But it has to be through IVF/ICSI. Sperms can be extracted directly from the Testicles and fertilize the egg. It's a little bit expensive. but if you really need to have more children this is a way
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    MrGritty17 9h ago You both divorced amicably. It was a joint decision. You also made a decision as a couple who thought they were gonna spend the rest of their lives together. She didn't cheat on you. She didn't ruin the marriage all by herself. You are as much
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    to blame as her and it's a shame you can't give your child some semblance of a normal childhood because you're upset.

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